Finding your soulmate is more of a serendipitous occurrence than it is a mission. But sometimes, you need to put yourself out there and take matters into your hands. After all, you will be with them for the rest of your lives. If you don’t want to end up shattering your dream of building a beautiful and loving family, you will need to be regardful of the people you choose to date.
If you’ve broken up with an ex, you’d feel as if getting back to the dating scene is a big challenge. Remember not to let that fear stop you from attaining true happiness. Your past relationships may have failed, but that doesn’t mean you won’t meet your right partner.
Whether you’re ready or a bit doubtful, it’s understandable. You need help answering the question in your head, “Do I need to meet someone new?”
Here are five signs that tell you’re READY to go back to the dating scene:
You’ve Flushed Out Feelings Of Bitterness
Humans are naturally subject to feelings of sadness, anger, anxiety, and bitterness; more often than not, humans attract these negative feelings after ending a serious relationship with someone. Think about it. How can someone whom you’ve been with for so long hurt you and leave you all alone? This common “after break-up question” haunts different people.
People who are mature enough to accept that reality doesn’t work that way will know that pain is part of the process and it is something one should let go. But for others who want to hang onto their “justified rage,” they tend to hold onto the bitterness and anger for a long time.
If you noticed that you stopped keeping tabs on whatever your ex is doing or whomever he or she is dating, making comments whenever a mutual friend brings up a topic related to him or her, praying for karma to hit him or her, and letting him or her consume your daily thoughts, then congratulations! You’ve let go of the baggage of bitterness, and you are ready to date again.
You’ve Become Aware Of The “Right Reasons”
It is not uncommon for people to date just because they’re scared to be lonely, and they want to have some fun in their life. Everyone goes through a period of immaturity, and sometimes it is extended to romantic relationships.
If there’s one takeaway from your past relationship, you should be with the person who will be with you in the long run. You need to stop “collecting” partners. Start being with the person who will love you unconditionally. Be with someone who will grow with you, and support you in your journey to becoming the best version of yourself—career-wise and character-wise.
If you’ve realized that you should stop getting into a relationship just for the fun of it and start working on something that can stand the test of time, go back to the dating scene and meet your “candidate” partners!
You Want To Meet Someone New
“Moving on” is different from “getting back out there.” The former means accepting how things turned out with a previous partner. The latter means putting yourself back on the front lines and risk getting your heart broken again. You are probably done with the emotional rollercoaster and have learned to love yourself more and be happy on your own.
If your instinct tells you to meet someone new, it’s most likely because you are finally ready. You are not looking to find someone who can fill the void. You are happy, and you want to be with someone. Even if you rid yourself of the negativities of the past relationship, remember to take things slowly. Remember to enjoy the beauty of dating.
You’ve Learned To Love And Accept Yourself
Many say that “No one will love you until you love yourself.” It is probably a lie, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect you in your quest to find “The One.” Learning to love and accept yourself is a significant milestone in life—for you and your partner—because it is a long journey that not everyone can simply complete.
If you see yourself as someone who is worthy of love, affection, and happiness, it will make you more appealing and more confident in your skin. It will also help you love more and attract positivity into your new relationship.
You Live In Hope That You’ll Be With The Right Partner Soon
Looking to the future with excitement is one major sign that you are ready to get back to the dating scene. People who are not will feel anxiety, stress, and sometimes fear. It will paralyze them and prevent them from meeting new people—their potential partners.
If you are happy, free, and emotionally well, it’s time.
Not everyone can easily transition from the moving-on stage to the dating phase, so if deep inside, you feel like you want to meet someone new, it’s probably your heart telling you to go for it and date new people.