While growing up, my parents have always told me to “collect and select.” Not books, comics, jewelry, or anything of that sort, to be honest. Instead, they are talking about the men I date.
Mom used to say, “The first guy you will go out with is not always your last love. It’s great if you meet your soulmate on your first try, but keep your heart and mind open unless it doesn’t happen.”
I guess I listened to my folks a little too well since I am still single at the age of 30. I did have dates and boyfriends who I thought were “the one”; they merely ended up as nothing but parts of my colorful life. Then, the pandemic came and stopped everyone’s activities, including my plans for finding a partner.
Now that the quarantine has been lifted at the time of writing, though, I am not too eager to get back on the dating wagon. Please don’t think that I have lost hope on love—I have not. I believe that dating can wait until after the pandemic because:
The Enemy Is Still Out There
Yes, you heard that correctly: the enemy—a.k.a. Coronavirus—remains at large. There is no cure for COVID-19, which means that no one knows how to kill the virus. You can’t even find a vaccine yet, so it seems impossible to shield yourself from it.
Imagine how much trouble you will undoubtedly get into if you insist on going out and catch the coronavirus. Your life is now in danger, and you have put your loved ones and your new date at the risk of having the same disease since you’ve been around them.
You Can’t Go Out On Proper Dates
A proper date in my book consists of having dinner at a fine-dining restaurant and drinking at the bar. If the night is still young, the club is always open.
However, none of that is doable when the entire world is dealing with a pandemic. The quarantine period is over, yes, but bars and clubs are not supposed to re-open yet. Dining out is also prohibited at this time, so your options include inviting a stranger to your home or taking out food and eating it in the car. Neither sounds good, I know.
It’s A Bit Scary To Be Near A Stranger
Although people no longer need to stay at home 24/7, the government still mandates us to maintain a social distance from each other. It seems ideal when you are grocery shopping or crossing the street, but you can’t be on a date and put a meter or two of space between you and the other person. That will not be romantic or sexy at all.
If I am honest, I think it is scary to be near a stranger right now. You don’t know who they have been hanging out with during quarantine or where they have been. They can claim to be safe from the coronavirus, but how can you guarantee that without test results? It is awkward to require your date to do rapid testing before your first meeting, so it’s best to put it off for a while.
I understand why some individuals cannot wait until this pandemic is over before they start dating again. Loneliness and fear of dying without building a family can activate your anxiety and make you feel like going out there is the best idea. Despite that, you can’t be too comfortable now that the quarantine has been lifted—many COVID-19 patients are asymptomatic, and they may be lurking all over town. You will only be able to evade the coronavirus by physically distancing yourself from everyone, including your potential date.