Being in a committed relationship isn’t always as fun—or rewarding—as people make it out to be. It takes a lot of time and effort to make a relationship work. Finding the perfect balance in maintaining your career, social life and relationship can be too much for a person to manage. Still, people tend to see committed relationships as the holy grail to their happiness. Truth be told?
You don’t need to be in a committed relationship to be happy, and here are just a few reasons why:
You have more time to focus on yourself.
Being single means you have more freedom to do what you want and chase after your dreams. Take it as an opportunity to work on your career, in honing your craft, or in learning new things and having more adventures.
It’s easier to make big life decisions.
When you’re in a committed relationship, making big decisions can be difficult. Being with someone means you always have to take them into consideration. Your judgment will be affected by your commitment, love and desire to be with him/her. Thus, it might keep you from living your life to the fullest.
Dating and meeting new people is fun!
Not all dates are picture perfect. However, there is some excitement in meeting new people, hearing their stories and measuring how they would fit in your life. Dating doesn’t have to be a means to an end. Dating itself is fun on its own as long as you know how to make the most out of it.
You can spend more time with your friends and family.
There’s no use in denying the fact that once people get into relationships, it becomes more difficult for them to make time for their friends and family. Remember that boyfriends/girlfriends (unfortunately) come and go. Your friends and family won’t. Hence, be sure to spend quality time with them.
You have control over your own money.
And, you get to spend it all on yourself! No need to worry about buying your spouse that ridiculously expensive bag for Christmas. No need to save up for that big anniversary date you were planning. Lastly, no need to worry about someone nagging at you to buy those (admittedly overpriced) shoes you saw the other day.
No nerve-wracking (and possibly awkward) family/friend meetings.
Being single means you don’t have to worry about impressing your loved one’s family, nor will you be forced to spend an afternoon with his/her friends.
You don’t have to constantly worry over someone.
No late night worrying when your partner’s out partying. No getting jealous over their hot, new workmate.
Less drama in your life.
All couples fight. Sometimes over little things and sometimes over bigger things (which may sometimes require counseling). Being in a relationship means having to deal with all the drama that comes with love, and you may be better off without it.
You have more time to learn what you’re really looking for in a partner.
People make the mistake of investing their time and effort into making their relationship work with the wrong partner. They end up breaking up—or worse—getting married only to get divorced.
You can work on your relationship with yourself.
It’s difficult (and often unhealthy) to love someone when you haven’t yet learned to love yourself. You might end up being overly dependent on your partner and find yourself constantly unhappy without him/her. Learn to become more attuned to yourself—your needs, your wants, your happiness. Focus on creating a stable and perfect relationship with yourself.
Don’t worry so much about being single. People tend to romanticize relationships and make it seem like being single is a handicap. What they don’t realize is that being single is just as amazing as being in a relationship. Therefore, take your time. Find happiness in yourself. You might realize being single might just be what you need to be for now.